4 Easy Ways to Create Meaningful Moments with Your Kids (2022)

  • Katie J. Trent Crosswalk Contributing Writer
  • 2022 22 Sep
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Have you ever wondered why some moments embed in our brains and others won’t? And more importantly, do we have any control over which moments stick and which ones don’t? In the 18 years before our children reach adulthood, they will accumulate around nine million moments. Of course, they won’t remember most of them. And that’s a good thing.

The Making of a Moment

I don’t know about you, but there are plenty of moments I pray my kids won’t remember—those times when I’ve lost my temper or been a poor example. I’ve failed more times than I care to count, so I hope and pray they forget about all those awful experiences.

But we’ve had many great moments too. Moments where we’re making beautiful memories or where we’ve had a precious conversation about Jesus. Or those times when the kids have an ah-ha moment or learn something new—where we’ve laughed until we’ve cried or discovered something amazing together. Those are the times I want my children to remember. So, I’ve learned to be more intentional in creating moments that matter with my kids.

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    You Don’t Have to Be the Perfect Parent to Create a Perfect Moment

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    I’ve never considered myself a fun mom or a Pinterest mom. In fact, I’m more of a Pinterest drop-out. I don’t do all the things. I’m terrible about imaginative play with my kids or running around the playground with them. Nope, I’m not the cool mom either. I’m the mom that enjoys a good book and some shade on the sideline.

    It used to bother me—all of those things that I’m not; All those ways I feel I fail or fall short as a parent. Maybe you have one of those lists too. Perhaps, like me, you wonder if you’re doing enough or being a good enough parent.

    I can assure you—you are. You’re a good parent. You’re doing a great job. Your kids love and appreciate you, even if they don’t always show it.

    The world, especially in this social media age, tries to convince us otherwise. It wants to tell us that we need more things, that we’ll be happier if we go on lavish vacations or buy all the stuff. But we don’t need a lot of money or even a lot of time in order to create more meaningful memories with our kids. And most importantly, we don’t need to be the perfect parent to create a perfect moment with our children.

    How to Cultivate Meaningful Moments

    We tend to remember things that shock or delight us. We also remember those traditions we came to depend on and look forward to year after year. So, how can you create more meaningful moments with your kids? Here are four tips to help you be more intentional:

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    1. Create a Meaningful Moments Bucket List

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    Take a few minutes right now to write out some of the memories you’d like to make with your children before they leave your house. Start with a top 10 list of things you’d like to do together before they graduate high school. Then, list 10-20 things you want to experience together this year. Finally, write out 10-20 ideas of special moments and traditions you’d like to make on a more consistent basis.

    Think of things big and small. For example, here are a few of my top 10 before graduation:

    -Go on at least one short-term mission trip to another country with my kids.

    -Help them pursue a passion.

    -Teach them how to start their own business.

    -Cheer them on as they enjoy a sport or hobby.

    -Watch them get baptized and lead in an area in their church and community.

    When creating a yearly bucket list, I think of things more specific to their age and the season of life we’re in. What’s something I could do with them this year that I might not be able to do another year? What’s one thing they could do now that they couldn’t last year? Are there special field trips we could go on? Places we could explore? New hobbies we could learn together?

    And when I’m thinking of traditions or special moments I want to cherish more consistently, I look at various activities we can do together. What do I want my kids to remember from their childhood? What do I hope they’ll do with their own kids someday? For example, I read aloud to them a lot. I want them to remember our snuggles in bed, reading great books together, and our praise parties where we blast the music and worship Jesus. Or all of the baking and trips to the park/beach/pool. I want them to remember that we always ate dinner together at the table, prayed together nightly, played board games each week, had family movie night regularly, prayed for people wherever we went, and sowed generously into the lives of others. What do you want your kids to remember?

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    2. Choose One Moment to Focus on Each Day

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    Every morning when I wake up, one of the first things I do is think about a special moment for the day. It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate. I simply choose one thing to focus on to show my kids how much I love them. It may be making a special breakfast, cuddling for a movie marathon, or getting on the floor and playing whatever they want for 15-30 minutes.

    It doesn’t matter what it is—and it looks different daily. But I make sure to invest at least 10-20 minutes into making a special moment with my kids daily. I don’t beat myself up for my mistakes or all the ways I fell short because I know they aren’t going to remember everything. If I take the time to make one or two special moments that day, they’re more likely to remember those.

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    3. End Each Day with a Favorite Moment

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    This has become my kids’ favorite tradition. When I pray for them at the end of each night, I ask them what their favorite moment of the day was. And then I share my favorite moment as well. It gives me a chance to learn what’s important to them, allowing me to create more meaningful memories that matter to them. It also helps increase their likelihood of remembering that special moment because it’s the last thing they’re thinking about before falling asleep.

    4. Capture Special Moments in a Keepsake

    The final tip I have to help you create more meaningful moments with your kids is to make sure you’re doing something to capture them in a keepsake. Consider keeping a journal of favorite memories for them, creating a photo album with all those pictures you take on your phone, or making a memory box where you put special mementos, photos, etc., for them to reflect on as they grow. However you do it, be sure you’re helping them to remember all those beautiful moments you experienced together. You’ll both be glad you did!

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    4 Easy Ways to Create Meaningful Moments with Your Kids (6)Katie J Trent is the author of the book, Dishing Up Devotions: 36 Faith-Building Activities for Homeschooling Families(Whitaker House). She is also a popular blogger, speaker, homeschool mama, and a Pinterest drop-out with a messy house and happy kids—most of the time. Katie lives in Arizona with her husband James and their two children. For more resources to grow your faith, strengthen your family, and simplify your homeschool, visit KatieJTrent.com. Connect with Katie on Instagram @KatieJTrent.

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How do you get in the moment with your kids? ›

How to be Present in your Child's Life
  1. Nurture routines for morning, dinner, and bedtime. Eat dinner together without TV or other electronic devices around.
  2. Foster a positive atmosphere of happiness. ...
  3. Talk to your children about their day. ...
  4. Hang out and play together.
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What are the 5 positive parenting skills? ›

Also, respect the need for independence and some privacy. Being a parent comes with its share of challenges and woes. The 5 positive parenting skills are to be encouraging, be responsive, set the example, set boundaries, and be interactive.

What is your idea of quality time with your children? ›

Quality time is time with your children and giving them your undivided attention doing tasks that they like to do. Spending quality time with your children does not have to be a huge undertaking, it can as simple as taking a few minutes each day to spend together without any distractions (Alvardo, n.d,).

How can I be a better present parent? ›

How to Be a More Present Parent
  1. Wake up before your kids. ...
  2. Exercise as often as you can. ...
  3. Put the kids to bed early. ...
  4. Put your phone away. ...
  5. Remember how fleeting childhood is. ...
  6. Have daily one-on-one time. ...
  7. Adjust your agenda.

What is the most memorable moment with your family? ›

the one of the most memorable day which I spend with my family was the day when my newborn baby sister was born everybody in the family was just overjoyed with the birth of my little sister there wss full joy and happy and their surroundings my family was just amazing I was also a member of the family so I was also a ...

What are 5 ways for strengthening families? ›

Five Protective Factors are the foundation of the Strengthening Families Approach: parental resilience, social connections, concrete support in times of need, knowledge of parenting and child development, and social and emotional competence of children.

What are the 3 F's of positive parenting? ›

Effective parenting involves effective discipline, and there are three f's that make it easy to remember, and they are firm, fair, and friendly.

What are 3 ways to practice positive parenting? ›

5 Positive Parenting Techniques You Can Use in 2022
  1. Get to the Root of the Behavior. Positive parenting experts worldwide can agree on this: there is always something motivating a child's negative or disruptive behavior. ...
  2. Be Consistent. ...
  3. Say No to Rewards. ...
  4. Focus On What You Can Control – YOURSELF. ...
  5. Discipline, Don't Punish.

What's the best parenting style? ›

Why experts agree authoritative parenting is the most effective style. Studies have found that authoritative parents are more likely to raise confident kids who achieve academic success, have better social skills and are more capable at problem-solving.

Why is it important for parents to spend time with their children? ›

Helps build Children's self-esteem

Children whose parents take part in activities together, build a positive sense of self-worth. children feel that their parents value them, and this increases positivity and self-esteem.

Why is it important for parents to have personal time? ›

Whether you are a single parent or a couple it is very important for you to balance your needs along with the needs of your partner and the needs of your children. No matter how much time you spend with your children if you are not taking care of yourself your children will suffer.

What are your goals for your child? ›

Goals for Children and Parents
  • Interact and get along socially with peers.
  • Develop strong, good self-concepts, which will hold well into elementary school years.
  • Be happy with school ideas and new friends.
  • Develop self-control.
  • Become aware of other's feelings.
  • Cope with stressful situations.
  • Develop physical skills.

How do I enjoy my child? ›

Your child's bedside where you can share a silly story or book at bedtime or listen to him share the best/worst parts of their day or what she is looking forward to tomorrow; or even watch your child sleep and dream. The kitchen where you can prepare a meal or bake cookies together.

What is absent parenting? ›

Absent parent means an individual who is absent from the home and is legally responsible for providing financial and/or medical support for a dependent child.

What it means to be a present parent? ›

Basically, present parenting is giving your undivided attention to your child. It means being fully engaged with our child. It means being with our child in mind, body, and spirit. This is quality time you spend with your child, so they know they are loved, valued, seen and heard.

Why is it important to be there for your child? ›

Positive relationships between parents and children are important for all areas of children's development. Positive relationships with children are based on being in the moment, spending quality time and building trust. Your relationship with your child will change and develop as your child grows and develops.

What makes a good mother? ›

A good mother is selfless but yet recognizes that she does need “me time” to take care of her family. Good moms teach their children right from wrong even when it is hard. They are there for their kids when they need them most, but then let them soar on their own when they are ready.

How do I teach my kids gifts? ›

5 Ways to Teach Kids to Stay Present and Put Down Their Gadgets
  1. Educate Yourself First. Before my family set guidelines, I wanted to know what experts on child development had to say about screentime. ...
  2. Be the Change. ...
  3. Talk to Your Child. ...
  4. Take a Break. ...
  5. Plan Alternatives.
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How can I enjoy my toddler? ›

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  1. Perceive your baby as a whole person and a unique individual.
  2. Sensitively observe and listen rather than reacting reflexively.
  3. Talk to your child using respectful, “real” language.
  4. Share your thoughts, describe your feelings.
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How do you present a newborn? ›

Try giving these simple exercises a go as you care for your newborn.
  1. Ground yourself in the present moment. The early days of being a parent can be confusing and it is easy to get distracted by our thoughts. ...
  2. Try seeing the world through the eyes of your baby. ...
  3. Mindful walking. ...
  4. Practice self-compassion. ...
  5. Take some time out.
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How do you create a memorable moment? ›

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  1. Take a deep breath. Stop what you're doing to pause and re-center yourself. ...
  2. Look. ...
  3. Keep taking deep breaths. ...
  4. Engage your other senses. ...
  5. Tell yourself this is a moment you're going to remember. ...
  6. Show some gratitude. ...
  7. Take a few mental snapshots. ...
  8. Take a few actual pictures.
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What are memorable moments in life? ›

The birthday at my school was memorable but the birthday party at my home made the day even more memorable. Also, my mother invited all my friends from school and the colony to the party. I received so many presents and we played a lot of games. We played games like musical chairs, tag, egg-and-spoon races, and more.

What are examples of memorable experiences? ›

Experiences are memorable events that engage each customer in an inherently personal way and thereby create a memory as the hallmark of that experience. Think of going to a movie, attending a sporting event, enjoying a concert, or visiting a museum.

What are the 4 family communication patterns? ›

According to the Family Communication Patterns Theory, there are four different types of family communication patterns: consensual, pluralistic, protective, and laissez-faire.

What are 3 simple ways to strengthen your relationship with your family? ›

Five Steps to Strengthen Family Relationships
  1. Make eating together a habit. Find time to share a meal with your family, no matter how busy you are. ...
  2. Spend quality time. ...
  3. One-on-one time with each family member. ...
  4. Be involved. ...
  5. Share daily expressions of love and support.

How do I make memories with my children? ›

Here are some ways to do that, according to experts.
  1. Provide running commentary. ...
  2. Talk about the moment after it's over. ...
  3. Involve all of their senses … or at least one important one. ...
  4. Bring home a souvenir. ...
  5. Create multiple pathways for memory. ...
  6. Have them draw a picture. ...
  7. Repeat the moment. ...
  8. More reading:
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How can I make memories at home? ›

35 Ideas to Make Memories at Home
  1. Book & a Movie. Read the book, THEN watch the movie! ...
  2. Family Costume Party. Dress up as your favorite character for dinner and play their part. ...
  3. Recreate Cooking Shows. ...
  4. Classic Movie Night. ...
  5. Tackle DIY Projects. ...
  6. Karaoke or Dance Party. ...
  7. Pillow Fight. ...
  8. Create from the Recycle Bin.
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How do I build my child's self-esteem? ›

How Parents Can Build Self-Esteem
  1. Help your child learn to do things. At every age, there are new things for kids to learn. ...
  2. When teaching kids how to do things, show and help them at first. ...
  3. Praise your child, but do it wisely. ...
  4. Be a good role model. ...
  5. Ban harsh criticism. ...
  6. Focus on strengths. ...
  7. Let kids help and give.

What are the best parenting quotes? ›

Positive Parenting Quotes
  • “We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.” – ...
  • “A parent's love is whole no matter how many times divided.” – ...
  • “To understand your parents' love you must raise children yourself.” – ...
  • “Love your parents.

What is effective parenting? ›

Effective Parenting is learning to parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had. It's not about being a perfect parent—it's about being a “good enough” parent. Effective parenting techniques focus on holding your child accountable for misbehavior and on developing better problem solving skills.

What a child needs from a parent? ›

Security. Kids must feel safe and sound, with their basic survival needs met: shelter, food, clothing, medical care and protection from harm.

How do you fill an attention bucket? ›

The basic premise of filling a child's attention bucket is that every child is born with a figurative bucket that we must pour love and attention into everyday. When we hold, caress, nurture, touch, sing, play and provide loving attention, safety and care, we fill our child's bucket.

How do you get your kids to listen to you? ›

How to Get Your Child to Listen and Follow Directions
  1. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Stay calm.
  2. Be direct.
  3. State commands positively.
  4. Give one command at a time.
  5. Give age-appropriate instructions.
  6. Give brief reasons.
  7. Be physically present.
  8. Ask the child to repeat the instruction.

What are the 5 positive parenting skills? ›

Also, respect the need for independence and some privacy. Being a parent comes with its share of challenges and woes. The 5 positive parenting skills are to be encouraging, be responsive, set the example, set boundaries, and be interactive.

What is a neglectful mother? ›

Uninvolved parenting, sometimes referred to as neglectful parenting, is a style characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child's needs. Uninvolved parents make few to no demands of their children and they are often indifferent, dismissive, or even completely neglectful.

What is an overbearing mother? ›

Overbearing mothers hover, criticize, and overstep boundaries, which can lead to a host of challenges for their adult children including low self-esteem, dependence, and perfectionism. These mothers may think they are doing what's best for their children, but ultimately their hovering causes harm.

How do I enjoy my child? ›

Your child's bedside where you can share a silly story or book at bedtime or listen to him share the best/worst parts of their day or what she is looking forward to tomorrow; or even watch your child sleep and dream. The kitchen where you can prepare a meal or bake cookies together.

How can I be a better mother? ›

10 Ways to Be a Better Parent
  1. Be the person you want your child to be. ...
  2. Praise your child, not just the action. ...
  3. Let your child make mistakes. ...
  4. Teach values, not rules. ...
  5. Don't just discipline bad behavior, explain why it's bad. ...
  6. Encourage creativity. ...
  7. Don't be ashamed to ask for and accept help.

How can I be a fun mom? ›

51 Ways to be a Fun Mom and Enjoy Your Kids
  1. Have random and undistracted conversations about whatever they bring up. ...
  2. Read a book aloud. ...
  3. Make slime. ...
  4. Work on a fun activity kit together. ...
  5. Go on a scavenger hunt style nature walk. ...
  6. Race your kid at the park. ...
  7. Make a craft.
  8. Go swimming.

How do I support my child emotionally? ›

Here are some tips to support them:
  1. Respond to children's reactions in a supportive way.
  2. Explain to them that theirs are normal reactions to an abnormal situation.
  3. Listen to their concerns and take time to comfort them and give them affection.
  4. Reassure them tell them that they are safe.
  5. Praise them frequently.
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How do you rebuild trust with your child? ›

Rebuilding a Child's Trust When You're in Recovery
  1. Be Honest. Trust isn't earned overnight, so it will take persistent effort and a good deal of patience until your child gets there. ...
  2. Keep Your Word. ...
  3. Communicate Often. ...
  4. Be Intentional. ...
  5. Find Support. ...
  6. Ask for Forgiveness.
2 Dec 2021

How do you spend quality time together? ›

The 15 Best Ways To Spend Free Time With Your Partner If You Want To Strengthen Your Bond
  1. Go On An Adventure. GaudiLab/Shutterstock. ...
  2. Be Present With Each Other. Anastasia Gepp/Shutterstock. ...
  3. Have Sex. Andrew Zaeh for Bustle. ...
  4. Hold Hands. ...
  5. Ask About Their Day. ...
  6. Walk & Talk After A Movie. ...
  7. Keep It Simple. ...
  8. Run Errands.
28 Mar 2019

How do you take care of 3 kids? ›

Here's Alison's 10-point plan to help cope when you've got a family of three or more:
  1. Mealtimes. Most children go through phases of not eating well. ...
  2. Seek support. ...
  3. Recognise your children are different. ...
  4. TV is not the enemy. ...
  5. Get housework into perspective. ...
  6. Look on the bright side. ...
  7. Be strict at bedtime. ...
  8. Accept sibling rivalry.

How do you balance life with 2 kids? ›

How to deal with two kids under two
  1. Keep the big one close. Your toddler can entertain himself for a short time while you're dealing with the baby, but as soon as you can, try to find ways to involve him. ...
  2. Don't stress about your schedule. ...
  3. Give up the guilt. ...
  4. Lower your standards. ...
  5. Expert tip. ...
  6. Read more:
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How do you balance two kids? ›

15 Expert Tips For Balancing The Chaos Of Two Kids
  1. Prioritize One-on-One Time. ...
  2. Don't Compare Your Kids. ...
  3. Create Separate Play Spaces. ...
  4. Buy Two of the Same Toys (When You Can) ...
  5. Practice Narration. ...
  6. Work on Projects Together. ...
  7. Set Expectations First Thing in the Morning. ...
  8. Divide and Conquer.
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